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Father After DivorceSometimes things in life are not received. We meet the "perfect" man is married, create a home, our life begins to arrange.After the happy times, however, there comes a point where things start to go backwards. Quarrels, disagreements, infidelity and logically leads to divorce.Painful and debilitating, sometimes it is a better choice.
The situation is even more critical when we created children. Only those who have experienced it, know how much pain and sorrow can bring them, watching their child suffer because of how their own parents. Painful and sad to barshem tears little one, which his children and idealistic way want mom and dad to be together forever and love. Explanations and logical arguments often fail to convince the child that this is the best out of the situation. The kids think the world was created for them, and Mommy and Daddy should always take care of their happiness.We come to the moment after all the tears and arguments, the parents still separate. Child stress and finds it difficult to adjust to your new lifestyle. Very often in these times children become depressed, lose ambition and interest in everything around them. Especially hard they get used to living with one parent and see less other, no matter how regularly the meetings. In most common cases, children remain with the mother and the father is the one they see every morning and every night.What is the correct behavior if we split with the father of the child?When one is in this situation usually able to think straight enough and decide what is right and what is not. If you're in the kitchen of the problems, however, things look very different and dramatic.As much as I do not get along with the person you have created a child, we have no right to deprive Pipsqueak father. Such a step is selfish and child injuries because, good or bad, your dad's dad. Every child needs a father's love and support, because when they're very young, children believe that their parents are the best and love them unconditionally. If more sensitive child, the thought of failed relationships, his parents will not let him out of your head, this will suppress and upset all the time.That is why the child should not lose touch with the father, no matter how he hurt you. The child should not be a means to avenge her husband, and their prohibitions to see and lose touch. Many women act this way and eventually realize how much pain they cause their own children.The most sensible way to continue their relationship is to allow your child to see his father as he wishes. Artificial hours or days designated only wreak unnecessary tension between everyone. Even the wrong way to communicate is to set children against their father, explaining how bad is done to you and to them respectively. Children have the right to know their father and love him in their own way, no matter how rushed the relationship of their parents. They can go out to have fun, spend time together and create precious moments in time that will be sweet memories for the child. Much easier for a child to forgive the mistakes of their parents than to be deprived of their mother or father.Adults should learn to not place their children in our troubles and transgressions.This is a mistake that you commit blinded by pain, but it does not win anything but cause pain to children. Explain to the child that his father's love for him is smaller and never will be. Let it feel free from the problems and prejudices of all close and not be burdened with your conflicts.The less drama into situations as less stressful to the child. Explain to him that divorce is normal and people learn to live happily after. It is the duty of both the mother and the father. They should continue to actively care for their young heir and not make him feel like a problem or a piece that can not divide.The father is not bad, nor the one who dumps you. It should remain a part of life and fulfill his fatherly duty like we've never been apart. Moderate friendly relations between the parents will make your child feel calm and safe.Dad's dad, whether husband or the mother of his child. So think smart and responsible parents. Duty of man and woman is to be good father and mother, no matter what feelings felt for one another. They will always be linked to the child and will be part of his life. However, blood is thicker than water. As divorce and have to change partners, children remain the most valuable thing we leave behind us
Понякога нещата в живота не се получават. Срещаме „перфектния“ човек, женим се, създаваме дом, животът ни започва да се подрежда.
След щастливите периоди обаче, идват моменти, в които нещата започват да вървят назад. Караници, неразбирателство, изневери и логично се стига до развода. Болезнен и изтощаващ, понякога той е по-добрият избор.
Положението е още по-критично, ког
ато сме създали деца. Само тези, които са го изживели, знаят колко болка и мъка може да им донесе, гледайки детето си как страда заради собствените си родители. Мъчително и тъжно е да бършем сълзите на мъничето, което по свой детски и идеалистичен начин иска мама и татко да са заедно завинаги и да се обичат. Обясненията и логичните доводи рядко успяват да убедят детето, че това е по-добрият изход от ситуацията. Децата мислят, че светът е създаден за тях и мама и татко трябва винаги да се грижат за щастието им.
Стигаме до момента, в който след всички сълзи и спорове, родителите все пак се разделят. Детето се стресира и му е трудно да се приспособи към новия си начин на живот. Много често в подобни периоди децата изпадат в депресия, губят амбиция и интерес към всичко около тях. Особено трудно им е да свикнат да живеят с единия родител и да виждат по-рядко другия, независимо колко редовно са срещите. В най-честите случаи децата остават при майката и таткото е този, който те не виждат всяка сутрин и всяка вечер.
Какво е правилното поведение, ако сме разделени с бащата на детето?
Когато човек не е в тази ситуация, обикновено успява да разсъждава достатъчно трезво и преценява кое е правилно и кое не. Ако сме в кухнята на проблемите обаче, нещата изглеждат много по-различно и драматично.
Колкото и да не се разбираме с човека, с който сме създали дете, ние нямаме право да лишим мъника от баща. Подобна стъпка е егоистична и нараняваща детето, тъй като, добър или лош, таткото си е татко. Всяко дете има нужда от бащината обич и подкрепа, защото, когато са все още малки, децата вярват, че техните родители са най-добрите и ги обичат безрезервно. Ако е по-чувствително детето, мисълта за провалените отношения на родителите му няма да му излизат от главата, това ще го потиска и разстройва постоянно.
Именно затова детето не бива да губи връзка с таткото, независимо колко той ви е наранил. Детето не трябва да бъде средство да отмъстите на мъжа си, като им забраните да се виждат и загубят връзка помежду си. Много жени действат по този начин и след време разбират колко болка са нанесли на собствените си деца.
Най-разумният начин да продължите отношенията си е да позволите на детето да се вижда с баща си, колкото и когато пожелае. Изкуствените часове или определените дни всяват само излишно напрежение между всички. Още по-грешен начин на общуване е да настройвате децата срещу баща им, обяснявайки колко зле е постъпил с вас и респективно с тях. Децата имат право да опознават баща си и да го обичат по свой начин, независимо как са се стекли отношенията на родителите им. Те могат да излизат да се забавляват, да прекарват времето си заедно и да създават ценни мигове, които след време ще бъдат топли спомени за детето. Много по-лесно е за едно дете да прости грешките на родителите си, отколкото да се лишава от майка си или баща си.
Възрастните трябва да се научим да не натоварваме децата си с нашите проблеми и прегрешения. Това е грешка, която извършваме, заслепени от болката, но от това не печелим нищо друго освен да причиняваме болка на децата. Обяснете на детето, че любовта на баща му към него не е по-малка и никога няма да бъде. Нека то се чувства освободено от проблемите и предразсъдъците на всички близки и да не се обременява с вашите конфликти.
Колкото по-малко драматизъм вкарвате в ситуацията, толкова по-малко стресирано ще е детето. Обяснете му, че разводът е нещо нормално и хората се научават да живеят щастливо и след него. Това е дълг както на майката, така и на бащата. Двамата трябва да продължат да се грижат активно за малкия си наследник и да не го карат да се чувства като проблем или като залък, който не могат да разделят.
Бащата не е лошият, нито този, който ви зарязва. Той трябва да остане част от живота на детето и да изпълнява бащинския си дълг така все едно никога не сте се разделяли. Умерените приятелските отношения между родителите ще карат детето да се чувства спокойно и сигурно.
Таткото си е татко, независимо дали е съпруг или не на майката на детето си. Така разсъждават интелигентните и отговорни родители. Дълг на мъжа и жената е да бъдат добри баща и майка, независимо какви чувства питаят един към друг. Те винаги ще бъдат свързани от детето си и ще бъдат част от живота му. Все пак кръвта вода не става. Колкото и развода да имаме и партньори да сменим, децата си остават най-ценното, което ще оставим след нас.
The situation is even more critical when we created children. Only those who have experienced it, know how much pain and sorrow can bring them, watching their child suffer because of how their own parents. Painful and sad to barshem tears little one, which his children and idealistic way want mom and dad to be together forever and love. Explanations and logical arguments often fail to convince the child that this is the best out of the situation. The kids think the world was created for them, and Mommy and Daddy should always take care of their happiness.We come to the moment after all the tears and arguments, the parents still separate. Child stress and finds it difficult to adjust to your new lifestyle. Very often in these times children become depressed, lose ambition and interest in everything around them. Especially hard they get used to living with one parent and see less other, no matter how regularly the meetings. In most common cases, children remain with the mother and the father is the one they see every morning and every night.What is the correct behavior if we split with the father of the child?When one is in this situation usually able to think straight enough and decide what is right and what is not. If you're in the kitchen of the problems, however, things look very different and dramatic.As much as I do not get along with the person you have created a child, we have no right to deprive Pipsqueak father. Such a step is selfish and child injuries because, good or bad, your dad's dad. Every child needs a father's love and support, because when they're very young, children believe that their parents are the best and love them unconditionally. If more sensitive child, the thought of failed relationships, his parents will not let him out of your head, this will suppress and upset all the time.That is why the child should not lose touch with the father, no matter how he hurt you. The child should not be a means to avenge her husband, and their prohibitions to see and lose touch. Many women act this way and eventually realize how much pain they cause their own children.The most sensible way to continue their relationship is to allow your child to see his father as he wishes. Artificial hours or days designated only wreak unnecessary tension between everyone. Even the wrong way to communicate is to set children against their father, explaining how bad is done to you and to them respectively. Children have the right to know their father and love him in their own way, no matter how rushed the relationship of their parents. They can go out to have fun, spend time together and create precious moments in time that will be sweet memories for the child. Much easier for a child to forgive the mistakes of their parents than to be deprived of their mother or father.Adults should learn to not place their children in our troubles and transgressions.This is a mistake that you commit blinded by pain, but it does not win anything but cause pain to children. Explain to the child that his father's love for him is smaller and never will be. Let it feel free from the problems and prejudices of all close and not be burdened with your conflicts.The less drama into situations as less stressful to the child. Explain to him that divorce is normal and people learn to live happily after. It is the duty of both the mother and the father. They should continue to actively care for their young heir and not make him feel like a problem or a piece that can not divide.The father is not bad, nor the one who dumps you. It should remain a part of life and fulfill his fatherly duty like we've never been apart. Moderate friendly relations between the parents will make your child feel calm and safe.Dad's dad, whether husband or the mother of his child. So think smart and responsible parents. Duty of man and woman is to be good father and mother, no matter what feelings felt for one another. They will always be linked to the child and will be part of his life. However, blood is thicker than water. As divorce and have to change partners, children remain the most valuable thing we leave behind us
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